Feeling blue? Brew! How to spill the tea and change someone’s day

Short days, cold weather, and the pressure of new year expectations. Yes, that is how you could typically describe January. That’s why Brew Monday exists: to flip the script on “Blue Monday” and turn it into a day of connection. The idea is simple: grab a cuppa, have a chat, and remind someone they’re not alone. 

But for many of us, starting that conversation can feel awkward. What do you say? How do you reach out without sounding forced? Here are some practical tips to make it easier. It’s not as daunting as it first seems. 

Why Brew Monday matters 

Loneliness and isolation can hit hard in January. After the festive buzz, routines return, and the cold, dark days can leave us feeling flat. A simple conversation can make a huge difference. Whether it’s with a colleague, a friend, or even someone you haven’t spoken to in a while. Talking helps us feel connected and reduces stress. It can be the first step toward better mental health. 

Use our tips to help you help someone else. 

Tip 1: Keep it casual 

You don’t need a script or a big reason to reach out. Start with something light: 

• “Fancy a brew and a catch-up?” 
• “Got five minutes for a coffee break?” 
• “I was just thinking of you — how’s your week going?” 

The goal isn’t to solve problems; it’s to open the door for conversation. 

Tip 2: Ask open questions 

Instead of yes/no questions, try ones that invite sharing: 

• “What’s been the highlight of your week so far?” 
• “How are you finding the start of the year?” 
• “What’s helping you get through these cold days?” 

Open questions show you’re interested and give the other person space to talk. 

Tip 3: Share something about yourself 

Sometimes, sharing a little about your own day makes it easier for others to open up: 

• “I’ve been trying to get outside for a walk every day. It really helps.” 
• “I’m finding January a bit tough. These dark mornings and evenings can make you feel a bit down. How are you finding it?” 

It’s not about oversharing; it’s about creating a sense of mutual understanding. 

Tip 4: Listen without fixing 

When someone opens up, resist the urge to jump in with solutions. Often, people just need to feel heard. Simple responses like: 

• “That sounds tough. I hope you’re okay. Thanks for sharing.” 
• “I’m glad you told me.” 
• “I’m here if you want to talk more.” 

Listening is powerful. It shows you care. You can then use open ended questions to allow them opportunity to speak further, but don’t push them. Be considerate of how much they may want to share. 

Tip 5: Signpost support if needed 

If someone seems to be struggling, let them know help is available. You could say: 

• “Have you heard of [insert service]? They provide mental health support. It might be worth a look.”  
• “I’ve heard [insert service] can be really helpful for mental health support. I can send you the details if you’d like?” 

Able Futures offers confidential mental health support for anyone in work at no cost. 

Your Brew Monday challenge 

This Brew Monday, take five minutes to reach out. Send a message. Make a call. Share a cuppa. You never know how much that small act could mean to someone.  

And if you can’t reach out on Monday – any other day works too.  

And if you need support yourself, Able Futures is here to help you with confidential advice and guidance. Let’s make this January about connection (and the cup of tea is a great excuse!)  

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